Friday

Yesterday was just one of those days. Tom pushed to get the quitclaim deed and something told me something was up. Not to mention I had other people saying why.

So the closing was suppose to happen yesterday. When things really weren't making any sense I started making some phone calls. I found out when the closing was and where. I asked about them setting up an escrow account so I could be sure and get my money. Then when I told Tom I was waiting for the closing attorney to tell me about the escrow thing he went off. Which made no sense cause he told me to call them and ask. Then I wrote back that I could go to the closing. Again he went off saying that he wouldn't be there. Then he sends another email saying that he would be there. I got Michael to ride with me because I knew he could wait in the lobby and not have to be in the closing. I needed someone to help keep my mind off of the pending doom I felt. So we get to the office and wait for a little, the guy escorts us back to a room because apparently jackass told them I'd be a problem. So the guy comes back after we discussed the money and everything and says oh the house didn't appraise for what we thought. How interesting that the house didn't appraise for what they thought and they just figure it out DURING the closing? So I kept my cool and he said what do you want to do? He said Tom wasn't even there at the closing.

What this part boiled down to was Tom made an offer of $100,000 less than we had agreed on. I guess he thought I'd jump at the money if I were at the closing. I stayed nice to the guy cause it wasn't his fault. The guy asked if I wanted to take the offer and go ahead and close and I said no. So he tried to smooth things over and I stayed nice to him and left.

The thing is Tom was desparate to get the quitclaim deed. He had no intentions of giving me the money he agreed to. He figured he would force me into taking what "he offered" after closing because I'd have no choice. Luckly I have people who warned me of what they saw. So I was suspicious.

Anyway, so I get home and was determined not to let this get to me. I was doing fairly well with it other than being pissed off that he would do something so low. So I am trying to distract myself when I see that something is up with my email. I go and check and he has deleted my email account. On my way to bed I see he has canceled my cell phone also.

Wholly cow! When is this going to end? I swear to the Gods tom can't just leave things alone. He always has to try and bully me.

This is what I sent him.

"You want a message here it is.

I agreed to the money so pay it. $$$$. Matt said you were holding the $$$$ until I moved out. Sorry that isn't going to work. You will sign a legally binding promissory note as I don't trust you any more nor will I ever again. You lied to me for 2 years. You said you would pay the utilities for me and you said that in the attorney's office and he remembers you saying it. He remembered you saying you would pay me $30,000 a year also. He remembers how you agreed to everything. He and I discussed the decree so I know exactly what it said.

Guess what I'm not intimidated by you so shut up. You have no control over me. The sooner YOU are out of my life the better. I guess I was a fool to ever believe you or your word. Shame on me for that.

You word means nothing. You promised my dad as you have promised Michelle's dad you would always take care of me. Obviously a lie. You told me a few weeks ago you would always be there for me, again another lie. I wish Michelle good luck with a liar like you.

You need mental help.

Plus you brought Matt into this so blame yourself and take some responsibility for once in your life.

So give me a legally binding Promissory note for $$$$, $$$$ of that to be paid on Monday June 26, 2006 and I want a security deed for that $$$$. You will get the quitclaim deed when I have the promissory note.

I should be out August 1st and I should have that $$$$ before then.

May you live in interesting times."


Now I'm waiting to hear back from him. He has gone from total asshole to trying to be in control of himself just today. I have two nasty voicemails and one that he is speaking reasonably. This is how he does stuff. He uses intimidation if he can and then if that doesn't work he actually tries to be a person. I just wish he would learn that being nasty doesn't make him right.

I don't know which way to turn. One attorney I spoke with was more pushy and would probably enjoy fighting with Tom. My original attorney is like me, laid back. He said I should try to negotiate with Tom. He said there is a lot of what if's to deal with.

Tom owes $14,500 in back child support

Tom = Prick

No Tom has employed a different tactic. This is what he sent me.

"At some point we are going to have to talk about the house deal and what your expectations are. I have an opportunity to be able to get the money that you need and you aren’t cooperating. Not quite what I expected…

Call or write.."

Now he is being helpful and doesn't understand WHY I'm not being cooperative. What this tells me is he understands he doesn't have the control he thought. I saw this same approach when Dallas wasn't letting him control her. He started a different approach. When he was pissy with her and she didn't respond he start acting like the above bit.

Then he sends me an email that says what does my week look like? Erm... He isn't paying me and I'm suppose to give a crap? lol Yeah right. Here is the funny thing. He doesn't know I'm not working anymore. lol I'll let him know on Monday what his week looks like only because I don't want him over here. For that fact I'll send him all the things that I had scheduled for him.

Why Some Ex's Should be Destroyed

Ok so here is where it stands.

He called me today, which I pressed ignore, I listened to his voice mail he wants to know what time on Sunday he can bring an appraiser by to look at the house. Hmmmm never? I look at the divorce papers and it says 3 appraisers that we BOTH agree on. This is the first I've heard of this appraiser and I'm not agreeing to it until I can check him out. Sunday is not a normal day for them to work so I know he is doing this on the side. This AIN'T gonna work.

I get an email from him asking when. So I wrote back and said Sunday isn't good. This is his response.

"Why is it not good for me to show the appraiser? Is this going to turn into a battle? Are we going to have to fight over this?"

He started it. He is the one who came on and started demanding. He is the one who says he isn't paying the salary he promised. We will see.

Now he is emailing me about the American Express cards. He is trying to pin stuff on me that I didn't charge. He is such a wanker. He is trying to say I've spent $10,000 since December. There are charges that happened in Florida. I haven't been there in years. He was there this year. Maybe he should check Michelle's card. he is a stupid bastard. I sent him a email that said fuck you, you aren't pinning this all on me. He sent back no fuck you. I always loved a good fuck you fight.

He is not in control and will not control me again. So Tom might as well stick his head up his own ass cause I'm done with him.


Oh I forgot to mention I found out why he wants me to leave so quickly. He is trying to get married the end of July or first of August. He is such a dick and she is going to take him for everything he has. His problem not mine.

Now the fight begins.

I'm sitting here tonight enjoying a movie and decide to check emails. I haven't really felt like being part of anything but have read and responded to a few. There lurking was one from Tom.

"I have scheduled June 23rd as the closing for the house. Please see what arrangements you can make after the closing to be out of the house. After I close with the loan I will need to do repairs and cleanup. What is your status and timing with James?"

Now first thing he seems to have forgotten is I don't have to agree to the closing just because he says so. The part about James (my builder) is in reference to my new house. So I wrote him back.

"Make sure you add in there my salary for the past two years also. The 23rd is not reasonable for me to be out as you know that the house can't be done in 3 weeks. I'll push James and Dale as hard as I can to get it finished quickly though."

I didn't think that was nasty sounding or anything. So he responds.

"Don’t you think living free and spending at will on my credit card as well as the cash and checks you have gotten cover your salary? Don’t start this now. You know better….

I can’t get in there to get it ready for resale until you are out. I can’t give you that kind of money and let you continue to live there. Our deal was June 1st. You have done nothing to help me get there and you know it."

Ummm that's what he agreed to do. So no I don't think that's right. Plus he has already said he is going to live here. Maybe he has decided to move to Texas. I don't care about that part. He came up with the June 1st thing, I never agreed to it. So I responded back.

"I'm not doing this with you Tom. You know the deal we made. I've not pushed you on anything. I've bent to everything. Don't think I'm stupid. Don't think you can still walk over me.

Have I pushed you on child support? Which you know I could have at anytime but I didn't because I didn't want that to come between us. I didn't push you on Salary or alimony. I didn't try to get part of the business. I didn't try to get any of the cars. I didn't try to take you and I don't know why you think you are the martyr."

I feel such anger and hate for his attitude at this moment. Frustration and betrayal. Why should I have been surprised? I just want to cry. I want to do evil things to him. I want to hurt him. I want to hurt him like he has hurt me. Continously. Yet on some level I hear let it go.

Oh the things I feel myself wanting to do but would these be things I'd owe him karma for? I don't know.